Hey there, friend—
There comes a time in our life when we’re each faced with some difficult truth, and we’re forced to make a decision that will massively alter the course of our path.
In this moment, the thing we fear the most is upon us—and no matter how much we want it to, there’s no going back to how it was before.
For me, that moment came when I knew my marriage was over and it was time for me to boldly face my biggest fear.
That stark realization came one early morning in November when I’d had enough.
It was the culmination of all the things that had been on constant repeat for 18 months—the emotional rejection, ridicule and gaslighting, the over-drinking, threats, name-calling, and infidelities.
I knew I had to accept that my happily ever after was no longer, and there was nothing I could do but face my worst fear.
I was shocked, confused, and utterly heartbroken. I felt lost, cold, alone, and humiliated—as everyone around me watched it all play out in real time.
I didn’t realize, at that time, how much of myself I had abandoned while desperately trying to save my marriage. Nor did I fully realize the extent to which my self-worth had been stripped during that time.
What I did know on that formidable November morning was that I had to save myself—and fast—despite feeling terrified of what that would mean.
So, I set about leaning on the only thing I knew to be tried and true—the work of healing my heart—which meant going back to the beginning of my ‘fear of abandonment; being unwanted, unloved and alone’—my childhood wounds.
Being in the work is what helped me move through this experience with total acceptance, radical honesty, and some semblance of social dignity.
What I know from experience is when it’s raw is when it’s hardest.
Here’s how I navigated those hours, days, weeks, and months . . .
- I allowed myself to be with the pain without trying to run from it. I’d let the tears flow freely whenever they were rising up, and for as long as the emotion moved me.
- I leaned on the strength and support of my closest friends, my sister, and my mom. I’d call them (or they’d call me) daily—and they would just listen and hold space while I fell apart.
- I wrote about ALL of it, as it was unfolding.I would pour out completely in my journals—writing of my pain, my shame, and my suffering, railing at God, and hoping the pages would bring me some tiny bit of solace.
We all go through dark and difficult times—and in those moments, it’s so important to have a support system to strengthen us while we face the events of our life with bold honesty.
I believe that how we rise is what matters most. And that is the conversation I’m here to have.
If you’re currently facing your biggest fear, please know that you are not alone. Don’t seek to blame yourself or others. Instead, ask for support from those who love you, and be steadfast in doing your own healing work.
Always with love, truth, integrity, and grace,
An International Bestselling Author, Lifestyle and Leadership Coach and speaker, Tris Thorp is one of today’s leading experts in the field of personal growth and leadership development, specializing in emotional healing, women’s empowerment and shadow work.
Having spent a decade traveling the world, being trained by and sharing the stage with Dr. Deepak Chopra in the field of social emotional learning, consciousness and mindfulness-based practices, Tris has a real gift for integrating the ancient spiritual teachings with modern-day science and mindfulness to help people all over the world let go of their past and create an empowered new future.
During her tenure at the Chopra Center, Tris apprenticed under the Chopra Center’s co-founder Dr. David Simon, co-facilitating the Healing the Heart and Emotional Freedom workshops alongside him. Prior to his passing in 2012, Dr. Simon appointed Tris as the person to carry on his teachings in the field of emotional healing. In addition, Tris was fortunate to be mentored by the late Debbie Ford prior to her passing in 2013, which is where she continued her extensive studies of the unconscious mind and concepts of the persona and shadow. After the loss of her two mentors, Tris went on to become certified through the Ford Institute as a coach specializing in Shadow Work and reconciling mental and emotional issues stemming from past experiences. She continues to share the gifts of emotional healing and facilitating this work in the footsteps of her former mentors.
Tris is the International bestselling author of Healing Your Heart: Rewrite Your Story with Awareness and Intention. A guide book to understanding your emotions, how we create our story and workable tools and techniques to heal from the past, Healing Your Heart stewards you through the process of releasing mental and emotional baggage, forgiving yourself and others, setting and enforcing boundaries and consciously communicating your needs in a loving and effective way so you can be who you’re meant to be, do the things you want to do and have all that you deserve to have in this life.
Tris is also the co-author of bestseller Mental and Emotional Release® with Dr. Matt James. Written in a language both professionals and non-professionals can understand, Mental and Emotional Release® offers real life case studies, an overview of MER and its foundation, step by step scripts to follow, and clinical efficacy studies comparing MER to other therapies.
Clearly in her dharma, Tris’s passion and dedication to gently guide people on their inward journey through personal growth is evident in her work as a Lifestyle and Leadership coach, Trainer of Mental and Emotional Release and workshop facilitator. She teaches various courses on leadership development, personal empowerment, social emotional learning and higher states of consciousness – both in online courses and her certification programs, live workshops, VIP retreats and 1-1 clients.
Tris Thorp is Board Certified by the Association of Integrative Psychology as a Trainer of Mental and Emotional Release ®, Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnosis, and Mental and Emotional Release ®, a Certified Reiki Master, and an Experienced Registered Yoga Teacher with Yoga Alliance.
Tris is devoted to inspiring and empowering others to cultivate and maintain mindfulness-based lifestyle practices that lead to greater clarity, purpose and fulfillment. Through one-on-one coaching, online programs and live events, Tris specializes in helping people to fully release negative emotions, limiting beliefs and unconscious patterns, enabling them to make quantum leaps into the life they are truly meant to be living.