We are ALL leaders to some capacity. We influence and affect everyone we come in contact with…EVERYONE. Leadership is something we do–consciously or unconsciously–through our daily choices and actions.
It’s how we present ourselves when we think no one is looking. How we show up when life is messy, raw, and anything but show-worthy. How we channel our energy when things don’t go our way.
You lead by who you are, your abilities, and how you’re expressing yourself.
How Do We Become More Impactful?
Take a moment to think about someone that truly inspired you. An individual that empowered and uplifted you even when things weren’t ideal. In short, someone who made a significant positive impact in your life.
What qualities did this individual have?
It may be harder to answer this question than you think. It’s often easier to point out the qualities one lacks than to pinpoint what makes someone so influential.
Sure, you may be able to name a few things–enthusiasm, communication skills, integrity, grace under pressure. But really, it’s more than a simple checklist. It’s the energy they bring and how they use their abilities day in and day out.
I once heard someone put it this way: A great leader makes everyone she comes in contact with look and feel beautiful. And I think you can agree, when we look and feel beautiful, we radiate more confidence and light.
Individuals that make uplifting others seem effortless, almost like they have an innate ability…how do they do it?
Some may argue they are born with this ability. But…guess what? That’s rarely the case. It takes work. It’s a process of learning from mistakes, deepening the awareness of self, and compassionately understanding others.
To put it simply…successfully leading others is a learned skill. We need to show up everyday, take the good with the bad, and be willing to examine how our words and actions are affecting others.
And, probably most importantly, be willing to change what we do when it isn’t effective or congruent with our vision and purpose.
Leadership is Evolving…For the Better
We all struggled through a difficult year. We were challenged, scared, uncertain, and forced to change in ways we probably never imagined as we rang in the new decade.
And, of course, we had our fair share of nagging fears and reservations before 2020. Things holding us back and blocking the paths to what we truly want. Fear of failure, fear of being judged, regret, and feeling unfulfilled can affect how we interact with ourselves and others.
Prior to COVID-19, I traveled the world and led from a stage. Then change hit me like a tidal wave. In what seemed like an instant, everything was uprooted. I started leading from my living room. I was navigating a divorce and all the messy thoughts and feelings that come with it.
I worked through the struggles. Took the time to examine myself, my interactions with others, and how I could create a positive ripple effect in the world.
I rebuilt my foundation (several times over) so I could approach 2021 standing in my truth.
Now is the time for each of us to be thinking about how we’re leading in our professional and personal lives. I sincerely believe effective leadership should be based on these pillars:
- Heart-centered: Approaching life from a place of inner strength, courage, authenticity, and resiliency.
- Compassion-based: Practicing genuine empathy to see as others see and feel as others feel.
- Courage-driven: Facing challenges, changes, and development without fear being a roadblock.
- All-inclusive: Allowing all in your business or group to feel included and treated fairly and with dignity.
Start Evolving How You Lead Now
People connect with YOUR leadership style because they resonate with you. They watch how you handle adversity, conflict, and chaos. And they choose you because they admire and respect you.
From the moment you start your day, realize you are impacting others. Here’s a few things you can start doing today to establish yourself in the new era of leadership.
Spend Time Reflecting on Self and Your Vision
Take a little time each day for quiet contemplation about your personal beliefs, goals, and motivations. Journal, meditate, or simply write a few things you’re grateful for each day. These simple practices can start a shift in your mindset and help you act with integrity and authenticity.
Identify Your Fears and Reservations
Warning: This can be hard. We all want to believe we’re in a place where fear is not holding us back. Unfortunately, this is not often the case. Challenge yourself to identify fears that may be holding you back from reaching your purpose. By acknowledging your fears, you start the process of working through them.
Be Mindful of Your Communications
At the end of each day, we want to believe we brought our best effort to the table. And sure, sometimes that happens. But what about those days where nothing seemed to go right? When one challenge set off a chain reaction that completely threw off everything you expected to accomplish for the day? How did you handle your interactions with others?
It’s easy to be a great communicator with those that really resonate with you. But what about the more difficult people in your life? How are you showing up when you communicate with them?
Strive to communicate with compassion and congruence with everyone you come in contact with. Yes, it will take some practice, but will make a HUGE difference in how you affect lives.
Be Curious About Others
All too often, we don’t take the time to get to know others. It’s easier to label and make a two-dimensional caricature based on the little we know about a person.
When we become curious about others, we discover the hidden gems they possessed. We see they are so much more than the “one who complains all the time” or “the bubbly one” labels. The more we know about others, the more inclusive we can be in our interactions.
As a result, we develop a camaraderie–a vibrational alignment–that creates a compassion-based community.
Serious About Leading Better?
Understanding how to reach and uplift others is a process. At some point, many amazing leaders reached a plateau where they realized some guidance and support would take their leadership to a whole new level.
Many of the women I speak with today are wanting a place where we can come for inspiration, transformation, and empowerment.
This is why I created the Women In Leadership Mastermind. It’s an opportunity to call together like-minded, vibrationally-aligned women to collaborate within an infrastructure of vulnerability, compassion, courage, strength, and community.
Ready to thrive in the new era of leadership?
My 1-year mentorship/mastermind is a chance to come together in a movement where we can emerge as the women we came here to be.
It includes:
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An International Bestselling Author, Lifestyle and Leadership Coach and speaker, Tris Thorp is one of today’s leading experts in the field of personal growth and leadership development, specializing in emotional healing, women’s empowerment and shadow work.
Having spent a decade traveling the world, being trained by and sharing the stage with Dr. Deepak Chopra in the field of social emotional learning, consciousness and mindfulness-based practices, Tris has a real gift for integrating the ancient spiritual teachings with modern-day science and mindfulness to help people all over the world let go of their past and create an empowered new future.
During her tenure at the Chopra Center, Tris apprenticed under the Chopra Center’s co-founder Dr. David Simon, co-facilitating the Healing the Heart and Emotional Freedom workshops alongside him. Prior to his passing in 2012, Dr. Simon appointed Tris as the person to carry on his teachings in the field of emotional healing. In addition, Tris was fortunate to be mentored by the late Debbie Ford prior to her passing in 2013, which is where she continued her extensive studies of the unconscious mind and concepts of the persona and shadow. After the loss of her two mentors, Tris went on to become certified through the Ford Institute as a coach specializing in Shadow Work and reconciling mental and emotional issues stemming from past experiences. She continues to share the gifts of emotional healing and facilitating this work in the footsteps of her former mentors.
Tris is the International bestselling author of Healing Your Heart: Rewrite Your Story with Awareness and Intention. A guide book to understanding your emotions, how we create our story and workable tools and techniques to heal from the past, Healing Your Heart stewards you through the process of releasing mental and emotional baggage, forgiving yourself and others, setting and enforcing boundaries and consciously communicating your needs in a loving and effective way so you can be who you’re meant to be, do the things you want to do and have all that you deserve to have in this life.
Tris is also the co-author of bestseller Mental and Emotional Release® with Dr. Matt James. Written in a language both professionals and non-professionals can understand, Mental and Emotional Release® offers real life case studies, an overview of MER and its foundation, step by step scripts to follow, and clinical efficacy studies comparing MER to other therapies.
Clearly in her dharma, Tris’s passion and dedication to gently guide people on their inward journey through personal growth is evident in her work as a Lifestyle and Leadership coach, Trainer of Mental and Emotional Release and workshop facilitator. She teaches various courses on leadership development, personal empowerment, social emotional learning and higher states of consciousness – both in online courses and her certification programs, live workshops, VIP retreats and 1-1 clients.
Tris Thorp is Board Certified by the Association of Integrative Psychology as a Trainer of Mental and Emotional Release ®, Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnosis, and Mental and Emotional Release ®, a Certified Reiki Master, and an Experienced Registered Yoga Teacher with Yoga Alliance.
Tris is devoted to inspiring and empowering others to cultivate and maintain mindfulness-based lifestyle practices that lead to greater clarity, purpose and fulfillment. Through one-on-one coaching, online programs and live events, Tris specializes in helping people to fully release negative emotions, limiting beliefs and unconscious patterns, enabling them to make quantum leaps into the life they are truly meant to be living.