Hey there, friend—
This week on the path, I’m shining a light on finding ourselves and our center when life is dishing some mighty challenges.
Many of us feel the desperate need to change other people or our circumstances when things aren’t working out according to our plan.
This stems from our core wounds which are being triggered anytime our sense of safety and security are threatened.
Things can (and often do) go sideways very quickly in life.
When this happens, life seems to go from really good to really bad so fast that we have trouble understanding what is happening, why it’s happening, and how best to handle the situation as it’s happening.
It’s in these tense times that we can really spin out. And when we’re spinning, we’re unable to respond in productive ways.
It’s precisely in these chaotic times in our lives that we need to ground ourselves and take a very measured approach to how we’re thinking, what we’re choosing, and how we’re showing up.
I’ve said before that our emotions are the #1 thing that can (and will) derail us in our life and on our path.
The quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our emotions. If we want to level up our lives, we need to level up the quality of our emotions.
What we think, what we feel, and what we do is what ultimately produces the results that we really want. On the flip side, our thoughts, feelings, and actions also have the power to produce outcomes we really DON’T want.
Before I separated from my (now ex) husband, it was pretty clear that shit had definitely gone sideways. I knew he was having an affair with a young girl who worked for us, and I can tell you for certain that had me spinning so hard and fast I could barely function.
What I knew was that I needed to remove myself from the environment—to put some time and distance between us—so that I could get a better handle on myself.
I knew what I was feeling was a natural and normal emotional response to what was happening in my then-marriage. And, when I really sat with what was coming up, I knew my childhood wounds of feeling abandoned and unwanted were just as much the culprit of my spinning as was the shock, anger, and confusion of what was actually unfolding in my life at that time.
Finding your true self in the space between the discord of your past and the mess in the moment is some seriously tricky business. It was, by far, the hardest assignment I’d been given in my life, to date.
While I’m not stoked I had to experience this, there’s no doubt I needed it in order to become the version of myself that I am today.
I leveled up my own personal growth and spiritual development, and the work I do with others today is so much richer and deeper because of it.
Whenever you’re faced with some massive upheaval in your life, it’s important to focus all your energy and attention on regulating your emotions so that you have better state control and can make important decisions from a calm, centered and congruent place.
My guess is you’ve likely found yourself in some big life events that really spun you out. Perhaps you’re in some version of it—or you know someone else who is fighting their way through it right now.
In these times, you must choose yourself first and foremost.
The things that worked best for me when I was really spinning—
- Breathe slowly and deeply as often as possible
- Do walking meditations in nature
- Cry often and let the energy of emotion move through you
- Eat super clean and avoid alcohol (definitely avoid alcohol)
- Find a healthy hobby (mine was learning to fly)
- Practice forgiveness toward yourself and others (hard as it may be)
- Work with the mantra, “Who am I becoming in this process?”
These practices will help you feel more calm, centered, and balanced, and they will support you in regulating your energy, mindset, and emotions.
It won’t happen overnight—and, it’s the medicine that will heal you in time.
Always Be Rising,
An International Bestselling Author, Lifestyle and Leadership Coach and speaker, Tris Thorp is one of today’s leading experts in the field of personal growth and leadership development, specializing in emotional healing, women’s empowerment and shadow work.
Having spent a decade traveling the world, being trained by and sharing the stage with Dr. Deepak Chopra in the field of social emotional learning, consciousness and mindfulness-based practices, Tris has a real gift for integrating the ancient spiritual teachings with modern-day science and mindfulness to help people all over the world let go of their past and create an empowered new future.
During her tenure at the Chopra Center, Tris apprenticed under the Chopra Center’s co-founder Dr. David Simon, co-facilitating the Healing the Heart and Emotional Freedom workshops alongside him. Prior to his passing in 2012, Dr. Simon appointed Tris as the person to carry on his teachings in the field of emotional healing. In addition, Tris was fortunate to be mentored by the late Debbie Ford prior to her passing in 2013, which is where she continued her extensive studies of the unconscious mind and concepts of the persona and shadow. After the loss of her two mentors, Tris went on to become certified through the Ford Institute as a coach specializing in Shadow Work and reconciling mental and emotional issues stemming from past experiences. She continues to share the gifts of emotional healing and facilitating this work in the footsteps of her former mentors.
Tris is the International bestselling author of Healing Your Heart: Rewrite Your Story with Awareness and Intention. A guide book to understanding your emotions, how we create our story and workable tools and techniques to heal from the past, Healing Your Heart stewards you through the process of releasing mental and emotional baggage, forgiving yourself and others, setting and enforcing boundaries and consciously communicating your needs in a loving and effective way so you can be who you’re meant to be, do the things you want to do and have all that you deserve to have in this life.
Tris is also the co-author of bestseller Mental and Emotional Release® with Dr. Matt James. Written in a language both professionals and non-professionals can understand, Mental and Emotional Release® offers real life case studies, an overview of MER and its foundation, step by step scripts to follow, and clinical efficacy studies comparing MER to other therapies.
Clearly in her dharma, Tris’s passion and dedication to gently guide people on their inward journey through personal growth is evident in her work as a Lifestyle and Leadership coach, Trainer of Mental and Emotional Release and workshop facilitator. She teaches various courses on leadership development, personal empowerment, social emotional learning and higher states of consciousness – both in online courses and her certification programs, live workshops, VIP retreats and 1-1 clients.
Tris Thorp is Board Certified by the Association of Integrative Psychology as a Trainer of Mental and Emotional Release ®, Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnosis, and Mental and Emotional Release ®, a Certified Reiki Master, and an Experienced Registered Yoga Teacher with Yoga Alliance.
Tris is devoted to inspiring and empowering others to cultivate and maintain mindfulness-based lifestyle practices that lead to greater clarity, purpose and fulfillment. Through one-on-one coaching, online programs and live events, Tris specializes in helping people to fully release negative emotions, limiting beliefs and unconscious patterns, enabling them to make quantum leaps into the life they are truly meant to be living.