Hey there, friend—


There are 3 integral areas of focus for those on the path of self-discovery, and those are emotional healing, personal growth, and spiritual development.


Really, they’re all part of the one path. The differentiator is what part of that path you’re currently walking—and even that is always interwoven with the other aspects of your life.


The inner work you do in one area of your life may seem specific in and of itself, yet it has a very direct effect—something I call the “ripple effect”—on how you experience yourself and others in different areas other than where you’re working.


One of the core practices of all three of these legs of the journey is the art of self-forgiveness.


Forgiveness, in general, often wields a heavy hand—meaning, the idea of forgiving someone for the pain they’ve caused us can be a tough pill to swallow for a lot of people.


And isn’t it interesting how, even when we are able to forgive another, it’s so much harder to forgive ourselves? If this is you, this is where “the work” is calling you to.


I had dinner with a friend last week who shared that they have deep regrets about how they hurt someone they care for deeply—and this regret takes up quite a lot of space in their thoughts and their heart.


Whenever my friend thinks about or spends time with this person they hurt (who has forgiven them, by the way), it weighs heavy on them because they can see, sense and feel that their relationship isn’t the same as it once was.


This friend has been unable to forgive themself for the pain they caused and for the resulting damage that has ensued, and they continue to carry the burden of pain and shame.


We all have these kinds of regrets and one of the most difficult parts of healing and personal growth (for a lot of people) is forgiving ourselves for the choices we’ve made in the past.


The longer you carry it, the heavier it becomes.


Your ability to truly heal your past is largely dependent upon your ability to truly forgive yourself—just as much as forgiving others who have hurt you.


This week, I invite you to self-reflect on where you might still be carrying some excess because you haven’t yet forgiven yourself.


One of my teachers, the late Dr. David Simon, always used to say, “we were doing our best from our level of awareness at that time”.


Whatever you said or did or chose, at that time, was the only way you knew how to get your own needs met. Whether you meant to hurt someone else or not, you are a different person now.


It’s time to forgive yourself—truly forgive yourself—so that you can get the lesson, heal the wound and do better moving forward.


This is the path of true healing. This is the path of true growth. This is the path to greater peace, deeper connection, and our return to wholeness.


When we heal ourselves, we heal the world.


Always Be Rising,